SE23.life is a friendly community of residents in Forest Hill and Honor Oak sharing useful information and up-to-the-minute news about the area.
In contrast to Facebook and other social networks, SE23.life is an open website, allowing conversation to be shared widely, visible in search engines and linkable from any website or social network.
Our moderation team promotes diversity of opinion and fairness.
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Joining Groups on SE23.life
We offer special discussion groups you can opt in to for in-depth conversation on subjects that interest you - from politics to cycling.
You can opt-in on the groups page.
Where is the forum based, and what software does it use?
SE23.life is hosted in a datacentre in Gloucester, UK powered by 100% renewable energy.
It was built using the open-source Discourse platform.
The main focus of discussion in the forum is SE23 related matters. But you don’t have to live in SE23 to use or contribute to the forum - it is for anyone with a connection with SE23, past, present or future, through work, leisure, living or family.
Feedback on Moderation or Individual Moderators
Please respect moderator decisions, which aim to be fair and even-handed.
We understand members may not always agree with moderation decisions, but we respectfully ask you to avoid posting such feedback in the public areas of the forum.
We take all feedback seriously and will respond quickly.
Please also keep in mind that none of our moderators are paid and give up their free time to help keep the site running smoothly - they’d all be very happy if no moderation was required!
What are Tea Breaks and Slow Mode?
When a topic gets particularly heated, posters may inadvertently breach some of the guidelines, or a few members may end up rapidly dominating a discussion. When this happens, a moderator may instigate a tea-break, or enable slow mode for that topic.
Tea-breaks are the temporary closing of a topic to be posts, usually for a number of minutes or hours. This allows things to cool-off and regain focus. A moderator note will usually be posted to explain why this has happened, along with a system message indicating when the topic will reopen for further posts.
Slow mode, when set on a topic, allows each individual to only post to the topic once every hour (editing of posts in that duration is also blocked). This also aims to cool any quick-fire exchanges between posters, while making time for others to join the discussion.
Please treat this discussion forum with the same respect you would a public park. We, too, are a shared community resource — a place to share skills, knowledge and interests through ongoing conversation.
These are not hard and fast rules, merely aids to the human judgment of our community. Use these guidelines to keep this a clean, well-lighted place for civilised public discourse.
SE23.life is politically neutral and not aligned to any party or campaigning organisation:
- The #local-politics category is for objective discussion of Council / GLA / Local Election matters etc.
- We prefer that general/national political discussion takes place on websites elsewhere, as SE23.life focusses on local conversation.
Moderators reserve the right to:
- Remove any party political campaigning without warning (the forum is not a campaign platform).
- Remove any discussions of wider political issues without warning.
Help us make this a great place for discussion by always working to improve the discussion in some way, however small. If you are not sure your post adds to the conversation, think over what you want to say and try again later.
The topics discussed here matter to us, and we want you to act as if they matter to you, too. Be respectful of the topics and the people discussing them, even if you disagree with some of what is being said.
One way to improve the discussion is by discovering ones that are already happening. Please spend some time browsing the topics here before replying or starting your own, and you’ll have a better chance of meeting others who share your interests.
You may wish to respond to something by disagreeing with it. That’s fine. But, remember to criticise ideas, not people. Please avoid:
- Ad hominem attacks.
- Responding to a post’s tone instead of its actual content.
- Knee-jerk contradiction.
Instead, provide reasoned counter-arguments that improve the conversation.
The conversations we have here set the tone for everyone. Help us influence the future of this community by choosing to engage in discussions that make this forum an interesting place to be — and avoiding those that do not.
Discourse provides tools that enable the community to collectively identify the best (and worst) contributions: favourites, bookmarks, likes, flags, replies, edits, and so forth. Use these tools to improve your own experience, and everyone else’s, too.
Let’s try to leave our park better than we found it.
Moderators have special authority; they are responsible for this forum. But so are you. With your help, moderators can be community facilitators, not just janitors or police.
When you see behaviour that doesn’t fit the site guidelines, don’t reply, draw attention to it, or call it out. This just encourages the bad behaviour by acknowledging it, consumes your energy, and wastes everyone’s time. Just flag it. If enough flags accrue, action will be taken, either automatically or by moderator intervention.
In order to maintain our community, moderators reserve the right to remove any content and any user account for any reason at any time. Moderators do not preview new posts in any way; the moderators and site operators take no responsibility for any content posted by the community.
Note: Please don’t waste moderators time by flagging posts you simply disagree with. It’s okay for people to have different opinions or values; flagging should only be used for posts which break these guidelines.
Nothing sabotages a healthy conversation like rudeness:
- Be civil. Don’t post anything that a reasonable person would consider offensive, abusive, or hate speech.
- Keep it clean. Don’t post anything obscene or sexually explicit.
- Let discussions breathe. Allow time between your posts on a topic so that a variety of people can have their say. Avoid dominating discussions.
- Respect each other. Don’t harass or grief anyone, impersonate people, or expose their private information.
- Use a polite tone. Avoid comments that could be interpreted as, for example, domineering, arrogant, sneering, patronising, or disingenuous.
- Respect our forum. Don’t post spam or otherwise vandalise the forum.
These are not concrete terms with precise definitions — avoid even the appearance of any of these things. If you’re unsure, ask yourself how you would feel if your post was featured on the front page of the Guardian.
This is a public forum, and search engines index these discussions. Keep the language, links, and images safe for family and friends.
Make the effort to put things in the right place, so that we can spend more time discussing and less cleaning up. So:
- Don’t “bump” your own topics unless you are adding information or reducing the price of a wanted/offered item.
- Don’t start a topic in the wrong category.
- Don’t cross-post the same thing in multiple topics.
- Don’t post no-content replies.
- Don’t divert a topic by changing it midstream.
- Don’t sign your posts — every post has your profile information attached to it.
Rather than posting “+1” or “Agreed”, use the Like button.
You may not post anything digital that belongs to someone else without permission. You may not post descriptions of, links to, or methods for stealing someone’s intellectual property (software, video, audio, images), or for breaking any other law.
This site is operated by your friendly local staff and you, the community. If you have any further questions about how things should work here, open a new topic in the site feedback category and let’s discuss! If there’s a critical or urgent issue that can’t be handled by a meta topic or flag, contact us via the staff page.
Yes, legalese is boring, but we must protect ourselves – and by extension, you and your data – against unfriendly folks. We have a Terms of Service describing your (and our) behavior and rights related to content, privacy, and laws. To use this service, you must agree to abide by our TOS.