Mural for Stefania

@ak8’s comments are perfectly fine IMO.

I feel sorry for Stefania. She was probably a victim of modern slavery.

It’s right her death should be mourned like any other local tragedy, but I hope we stay focussed on avoiding her fate befalling others. How we avoid the cycle of drug addiction. How locals can help break the cycle as opposed to exacerbating it by giving money which ends up in the hands of organised criminals. I hope a large part of the crowdfunder goes to charities who are helping people get off the streets. I wish some of the money could go toward police efforts to smash organised crime and modern slavery.

I feel that murals dedicated to local people should be dedicated to people that made good life choices and who are people you’d want your children to emulate. People like @Michael, @Simon and @Pauline and many others - those who have dedicated their time and effort to bringing the community together and providing positive examples to our kids.

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I agree with ak8. The floral tributes are one thing but the graffiti is another. To me It does look like someone was killed there and my understanding is she died in hospital. Surely by doing something with the money raised to help others and help prevent another person living that apparently sad life would be a better legacy …not by putting up a memorial in a place where she often seemed unhappy.

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Totally agree. I am saddened by the pointless loss of a life.
this young woman was a victim of circumstance, wrong life choices call it what you will.
I wish the money spent on flowers would go to a charity to help addicts and the homeless.
once the funeral is paid for I think any extra funds should go towards such a charity.
A mural to me means much less than contribruting to something which may save other men and women finding themselves in Stefania’s situation.
She was not a saint.
She was a victim and a few wrong choices but for the grace of god she could be any of us or any of our family members.

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Sad that a youngish woman died through unnecessary circumstances, she sat there pleasantly not annoying anyone, but perhaps inducing feelings of guilt, whilst there are are many who walk up and down on the overground everyday who are not so pleasant and we chose to ignore and are often made to feel guilty by other passangers, there are many charities that we can give to, I refuse to be made feel guilty by a sad face

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Hi Guys

In my opinion local murals should be for inspiration for the whole community and what motivates and inspires the community and for what the community want I don’t think myself @Simon and @Michael can help with this as we only have our own opinions

Sadly this has split the community, but for what it’s worth I would like Stephanie to have a good send off and the remaining either going to a homeless charity or to Forest Hill Society which can be put into a bank account to help another in the future.

I tried to help her so many times but failed. I think we need to get advice on how to help people similar in the future otherwise we will keep failing homeless people in our community.

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I’m absolutely amazed people would even think a mural would be appropriate. Misplaced grief, perhaps.

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Thanks Chris for the mention x

I and many others tried on many occasions to support Stephania to change her life and let her know about local Narcotics Anonymous meetings where she could get the welcome and help from recovering addicts to enable her to deal with her addiction. She didn’t want to know. Many times I said to her Stephania there is another way you do not have to die there is an NA meeting in walking distance from where you are sitting - she simply didn’t want recovery. It is too easy to blame the State actually it was her choice to remain in active addiction because many of us had really tried to offer solutions. She didn’t want to know. It is tragic yet unsurprising Stephania was another casualty of the untreated disease of addiction but there are many addicts who do recover once they get honest, admit they have a problem over which they are powerless and become open minded and willing to engage the recovery process which is empowering and leads to freedom from active addiction. Stephania was no different to any other addict she just didn’t want to take the action to recover because she probably didn’t think she was worth it. All of us and i include myself who enabled her by trying to be so helpful probably contributed to her remaining a victim of addiction. Therefore perhaps just a kindly word or the gift of one’s time for every addict is the best we can do.
Thinking of the many who have died of this terrible disease over many many years you all remain always in my heart…

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I think perhaps she had other pressures than just addiction (her “protectors”) so it was probably not so easy to just choose another route.
A mural is definitely not appropriate. Giving to an appropriate charity will do so much more to help people like her than a mural.

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I’m glad my idea for a mural for Stephania is back on, and up for a vote! In time, it will feel like a more appropriate and a great replacement for the impromptu shrine that I see has become displaced. If the subway is to be decorated surely it should contain some recognition of her. I understand the reasons why not, but the fact is, she was there everyday, and was a positive influence on many people who walked by.

Is this seriously under consideration? However friendly and kind Stefania was, a mural is an utterly inappropriate ‘tribute’. Commemorating someone who used to spend their day sitting on newspapers on an underpass? What kind of message is that sending out to the younger generation? People should surely be allowed to remember her in their own private thoughts, not through a public declaration of what feels very much like misplaced affection.

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I agree-I think we should have a mural of hope and empowerment not one commemorating a sadly wasted life.
Sorry but this is just how I feel and hope I haven’t upset anyone by voicing this.
Any young life lost is a tragedy.
Personally I would MUCH rather we had a forest hill against knife crime mural as so many families are touched and destroyed by this terrible blight and so many very young lives lost as a result

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